When one has a good experience leaving their comfort zone, they expect the exact same result for someone else who is totally different. But inevitably, it's best just to let people just be who they are. That's what makes us all unique.

I don't know, I don't talk to people.

Introverts are the most humble, honest and amazing people ever. I am an introvert. I should know, It's disgusting that extroverts expect us to participate in their wayward style of life.

people are smart, if someone is a talker, he must have fans to listen to him, and it goes on and on, its dangerous to tell these speakers to shut up,

Originally posted by Apollo702:

Telling people to shut up is not good form.

And it's not good form to tell people who want to be alone to not want to be alone.

Originally posted by Angel in the Dark:

Why do people always ask introverts to leave their comfort zone but no one asks extroverts to shut up for a while?

*claps*

I completely agree.

Let me say this once and be very clear.

I am a HUGE introvert, but I enjoy my life. I don't want fixing. I don't want to be outgoing. I don't want to get married. I don't want kids. I like my space. And, more than that, I actually need that space (It's really not a choice).

I am so sick and tired of having to justify what I am to people who just don't get it.

I don't think I have ever met a "friend" who didn't want to "convert me".

Honestly I think its probably easier to be gay or something. At least people would understand that (sorry gay people if that's trivialising any difficulties in your life).

Just force them to be social and normal

Introverts have their own strenghs, they don't need to force themselves to become extroverts. Extroverts are good at shaping the social world, at being actors, when introverts are good at observation, analysis. When extroverts are busy speaking and making the show, introverts are busy too, analysing, pondering, planning. As an introvert myself, I talk to a lot of peoples, for one very simple reason : I give good advices, because I thinked a lot when others were busy doing something else. So when peoples want to figure something, they come talk to me.

Both extroverts and introverts have their own places in society, with different strenghs and weaknesses. Asking an introvert to act like an extrovert will just make him try to compete with natural extroverts at something he's not as good at as them. It's like asking a pro soccer player to compete with a chess champion in a chess game, he'll be crushed.

Originally posted by Pocahawtness:

Originally posted by Angel in the Dark:

Why do people always ask introverts to leave their comfort zone but no one asks extroverts to shut up for a while?

*claps*

I completely agree.

Let me say this once and be very clear.

I am a HUGE introvert, but I enjoy my life. I don't want fixing. I don't want to be outgoing. I don't want to get married. I don't want kids. I like my space. And, more than that, I actually need that space (It's really not a choice).

I am so sick and tired of having to justify what I am to people who just don't get it.

I don't think I have ever met a "friend" who didn't want to "convert me".

Honestly I think its probably easier to be gay or something. At least people would understand that (sorry gay people if that's trivialising any difficulties in your life).

Agreed, although I think part of it comes from the misconception of what introvert actually means. People often equate it to being socially anxious/shy, antisocial or socially awkward, although these traits can overlap. It just means introverts feel drained after socializing, even if they do enjoy it in the moment. And they need solitude to recharge.

Originally posted by Netaris:

Introverts have their own strenghs, they don't need to force themselves to become extroverts. Extroverts are good at shaping the social world, at being actors, when introverts are good at observation, analysis. When extroverts are busy speaking and making the show, introverts are busy too, analysing, pondering, planning. As an introvert myself, I talk to a lot of peoples, for one very simple reason : I give good advices, because I thinked a lot when others were busy doing something else. So when peoples want to figure something, they come talk to me.

Both extroverts and introverts have their own places in society, with different strenghs and weaknesses. Asking an introvert to act like an extrovert will just make him try to compete with natural extroverts at something he's not as good at as them. It's like asking a pro soccer player to compete with a chess champion in a chess game, he'll be crushed.

Oh it's worse than that.

Most introverts would literally go insane if they were in a social situation all the time.

I know. I've tried. And forcing the issue doesn't work. It actually makes me worse. The more people try to force me, the more introvert I become. I would eventually literally run away to find my own space.

Asking an introvert to live like an extrovert would be like asking an average person to live in solitary confinement.

Originally posted by Pocahawtness:

Oh it's worse than that.

Most introverts would literally go insane if they were in a social situation all the time.

I know. I've tried. And forcing the issue doesn't work. It actually makes me worse. The more people try to force me, the more introvert I become. I would eventually literally run away to find my own space.

Asking an introvert to live like an extrovert would be like asking an average person to live in solitary confinement.

Well, there is a balance to find, between social interactions and some alone time too. Social interactions get easier as you practice, but it's like sports, you have to start small, especially as an introvert. Because too much alone time isn't good either, you just have to keep the amount of stimulation on check and go around peoples who respect your boundaries and don't mind about it.

Originally posted by Angel in the Dark:

Originally posted by Pocahawtness:

*claps*

I completely agree.

Let me say this once and be very clear.

I am a HUGE introvert, but I enjoy my life. I don't want fixing. I don't want to be outgoing. I don't want to get married. I don't want kids. I like my space. And, more than that, I actually need that space (It's really not a choice).

I am so sick and tired of having to justify what I am to people who just don't get it.

I don't think I have ever met a "friend" who didn't want to "convert me".

Honestly I think its probably easier to be gay or something. At least people would understand that (sorry gay people if that's trivialising any difficulties in your life).

Agreed, although I think part of it comes from the misconception of what introvert actually means. People often equate it to being socially anxious/shy, antisocial or socially awkward, although these traits can overlap. It just means introverts feel drained after socializing, even if they do enjoy it in the moment. And they need solitude to recharge.

Yes. That is true. The pure introvert (with no other traits) is the rarest of beasts, I think, because one thing often leads to another. And it isn't always easy to say which caused what. I think I know my own story but there is no reason why others should be the same.

I'm quite bad because now I mix all the traits. Introversion produced a lack of social contact and underdeveloped social skills, which has only made me worse. It made socialising very tiring. Not that I care. I just care that people who don't understand want to change me when I don't want to be changed. I would wish for friends who really do understand that. Or at least respect it. But, no, they always want something I'm not.

Good point. I think most of us are just plain verts.

Originally posted by Despiser:

Good point. I think most of us are just plain verts.

We're on the internet, so yes, it's mostly us here. ^^

im a introvert because no one wants to talk to me lmao guess that's what happens when your unattractive and austic.